Hello world! Welcome to Purple Diary. My name is Danielle, and I’ll be your host, moderator, and content creator as we figure out how to bring more peace, positivity, and productivity into our lives. This place is meant to be a community and a comfortable place for us to talk about the growing pains of moving through our 20s. This post will introduce you to me, Purple Diary, and explain what we’re trying to do here.
A few fun facts about me:
1. I’m 23
2. I’m currently in grad school for forensic psychology, and I’m paying my way through by working full-time at a law firm
3. I live at home with my mom – goal is to move out next year but we’ll see
4. I drive a 2007 Hyundai Elantra named Herman
5. I love to read
6. My ultimate career goal is to get my PsyD and provide therapy and mental health services to inmates in U.S. prisons
Some other important facts about me: I’m not here to pretend that I’m qualified to give anyone advice about how to be a successful 20-something-year-old. I’m not even halfway through my 20s myself. I have no problem admitting that I have so much room to grow, and I want help. Cue: Purple Diary.
I think one of the problems with being a 20-something today is that I feel so much pressure to have everything together. I think that’s always been fairly normal for people in their 20s (particularly those of us who are out of college and working full-time), but there’s so much extra pressure today with social media.
Every single person I know in their 20s is trying to put up some image of “having it together.” Whether it’s people who are getting engaged or married, people buying houses, or people travelling across the globe, everyone is putting up the best version of what they’ve got going for them. Nobody is admitting that they’re 24 and they still don’t really have any money saved up, or that their parents are funding their lavish lifestyles, or that they don’t know how to have a healthy, mature relationship.
In other words, nobody is sharing their failures. Everyone wants to be a homeowner AND have their master’s (or even their doctorate) AND travel internationally every year AND get a new house/car/wardrobe while still being totally fiscally responsible and self-sufficient.
I’m gonna be honest, I don’t have any of those things– yet. And I don’t feel pressure to. I’m 23. I think it’s odd that so many of us want to feel like we’re self-made and “ahead of the game” when we’re at the very beginning of adulthood.
Trust me, I can completely relate to not wanting to wait as long as most of our parents had to before we’re successful. I definitely would love to see the payoff of my hard work before I’m 40. But I think there’s something to be said for celebrating the journey.
The accounts I enjoy the most on Instagram (which is the only social media I use regularly) show all the parts of being a regular person. I love seeing people talk about their failures. Not in a sadistic evil villain kind of way, but in a relieved way. It makes me feel good to see that there are other people who don’t have all their shit together. NO ONE HAS ALL THEIR SHIT TOGETHER AT 25. It’s not possible. Even if you’ve somehow managed to be in a healthy long-term relationship, with all your bills paid off and $10,000 in the bank, plus you’re well-traveled and you live a healthy lifestyle, you still don’t have it all together. Because you’re 25. You’ve still got so much work to do.
I think our 20s might be the only decade in our adult lives that we’ll have significant changes every year. My goal with Purple Diary is to make these changes intentional and to make sure that they’re for the better. One thing I will say about people who put on for Instagram is that they at least have an idea of what they should be doing, whether they’re actually doing it or not. Let’s start really doing it. Let’s get healthy. Let’s learn how to have mature, positive relationships and friendships that actually help us grow into better people. Let’s get fiscally responsible. Let’s learn about how we can travel the world without breaking our bank accounts (or our parent’s). Let’s learn how to be peaceful, positive, and productive people.
Purple Diary is a blog (and will be a podcast very soon), but it serves no real purpose if I’m just putting up these posts and they get no responses. This is a community! This is where you come to share how you’re really feeling with us – share your fears about getting older, the pressures to date and to keep up with people online that you don’t even know that well and you probably wouldn’t like if you did, and share your failures. I can already promise you guys that I’ll be sharing obstacles I’ve dealt with and new ones I’m handling as they come along, and this community will grow so much stronger if you do the same.
If you’re not in your 20s anymore, please join us! A whole bunch of 20-somethings trying to explain how to be an adult to each other is not gonna work. We need help from people who have done this already. I don’t care if you’re 31 or 65. I want opinions from people in all stages of life. How would you have handled your money differently in your 20s? What’s your take on being married at 25? Do you have any advice for moms in their 20s who are still in school or working (or both)? How did you figure out what career path you wanted to take? There will be blog posts on all of these topics and so many more, and I really want advice from people who took away important lessons from things they did in their 20s, so please join us and help out!
I have so many plans for where this community will go, and I’m so excited to finally be putting content out here! If you take away anything from this post, it’s that I want us all to feel more comfortable with making mistakes. And I want us to be able to share our mistakes and tell other people how they can avoid making the same ones. Being successful doesn’t have to be a competition – it’s not about being the first to buy a house, or get married, or finish law school. We’re all allowed to do those things on our own time. And it feels so good to see your friends win with you. That’s what this is – a group of people trying to help each other out so that we can all be closer to the top by the time we hit 30 (spoiler alert – I’ve heard that we may not exactly be all the way at the top by 30 either).
If you want to join the Purple Diary community, welcome!! I’m so excited to talk to everyone and learn from you guys. Please comment on this post with ideas for topics you want to me write about, and always feel free to give me feedback on my posts. If you want to talk to me directly or share something personal (I’m always here to consult/support/vent to), you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I can’t wait to see the transformation we all go through this year. Being more peaceful, positive, and productive individuals isn’t gonna happen on it’s own, so we’ve got some work to do. Let’s get to it!